I’ve went downtown with my buddies about 3 times now. My buddies are all virgins, too, and want to improve their social life, so together we pick up women at clubs and on streets. Technically I have had most success from us 3, but it is still pretty pathetic. I’ve got a telephone number, danced and embraced girls. Once even I had a girl come with me. But I’m still a kissless virgin thus still a pathetic beta. I hate that the tall hot and drunk blondes that I somehow got my hands on a bit during the dancing didn’t respond to me. I thought this was what it is about – fucking drunk chicks. I guess not.
The going out so far seems unproductive really. I don’t have any approach anxiety what so ever and I don’t drink at all. I don’t have to. I can dance freely in the clubs, I can approach any girl. But it seems very hard to convert the approaches to something more than a quick chat, a number or kiss. It seems like they are just there to tempt the men and in the end say: “I am just hanging out with my girlfriends. I don’t want to meet guys.” I’ve gotten as far as embraced a girl, played with her, got her really close, but in the end she didn’t give me her number, because she somehow got the idea that I would want to fuck her and her friend. Her friend was ugly, so I didn’t talk much with her. I was interested only in the blond.
Anyway, cold approaching at night on street sucks. Yes, girls chat with you. Yes, they answer questions or “openers” and what not, but only one girl from all that I approached gave me her number. It seems I had more success when I approached girls in daytime. I realized I should smile often despite me having not perfectly straight teeth.
Another thing that drives me mad is the fact that there are plenty of average, plain guys with hot women. Women taller than them. It’s like they knew something I don’t.
Currently I have a girl willing to date me, but she is about 5-6/10 looks wise, also pretty poor and stupid, but that doesn’t matter. I guess I will go on her with a few dates to see if she puts out. I could at least lose my v-card, she is too plain looking to go out with her in public where other people would see me and would think I can’t find anything better. The fact that I most hate is that she is getting chubby and doesn’t exercise. I wouldn’t care if she is poor or even dresses badly, but if she gets more bodyfat than now, she gets booted out of my potential mating partners.
Regarding my goals. I’m still studying for the drivers test. I’m taking online test and still having mistakes. I won’t go take the real one until I can pass the online one 5 times with 0 mistakes.
Regarding money – working on building connections to get myself a good job. In the meantime applying for a sperm donor, will see if they accept me. It seems they will. Would net me in around 400$ a month. That’s half of the sum already. Also, reason why I don’t spend money on drinks. You can’t drink alcohol if you are a sperm donor. But it’s not like I need it in the first place. Waste of money.
What I like to do is get everything ready at home before I go so that I know I will have to bring something home before the night is over. Before you go out, know exactly what you are going to do if you do bring some hot girl over or else she will disappear so fast it will make your head spin and you will be kicking yourself for lack of preparation.
1) Condoms in a location which can be easily accessed (near bed).
2) Music ready. Just say, “I’m going to listen to whatever I was listening to earlier before I went out.” I have a sex music playlist that sounds like club music at first, then slowly turns into makeout music. I like dubstep, but that is just personal preference.
3) Have all the lighting conditions perfect in your house before you go out. Have maybe just a lamp on in your room but the main light in the house on so that the house gets dimmer and dimmer as you walk towards your room.
To get them to come to your house, give them excuses such as, “Let’s go get coffee. I know a really good place.” Then take her to your house and make coffee. If you don’t have coffee just pretend you do and say, “I ran out. Hey want to see my music collection blah blah blah.”
I really think that the last stage of seduction is the hardest because females like to be coerced and it takes a lot of convincing to do so. I hardly think about coming up with a witty opener anymore.
My parents are asleep at home so that doesn’t work. Students don’t have extra $50k here to blow on a flat, we live with parents unless the parents buy us new apartments. And they haven’t bought me one. Also I live pretty far from the clubs, need to take a taxi.
Ok so she’ll definitely lose interest during the taxi drive if you live far away from the club. Never mind. I don’t see how the parent thing is really that big of an issue. But too bad you don’t live close to Da cLuB. =\
Anyway good luck man. I hope to hear some good news about your situation soon. Peace.
P.S. Even if you do get a car, the distance from the club to your house will still be an issue. Therefore, start kissing/fuck her once you get the car.
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